This might seem like a taboo but we openly have to talk about it. It is something that we all, boys and girls hold dear, very close to our hearts.
Let’s talk about sex!
Yes. SEX!! We can’t hide from it anymore. Besides it’s open, no one hides about their sexuality or number of partners they have had, one night stands, chips fungaz etc.
I seem to either be naive or in the dark or relationships now have completely changed. I’m I a fossil, or am I still in the dark age?
As I’m writing this I shiver because I can see how we don’t hold so dear what we possess. We just want to let go and “go with the flow”. Is it the flow really, is it the way to go, will this guy or girl love me less if I don’t sleep with him or her?
I am of that school of thought where if you aren’t ready to wait for me to be ready, then you should pack your bags and go. I don’t want to be forced into something I know will last only a few minutes and then that love disappears. Why are we calling it love in the first place? Sorry love making. Love was already made and given to us. So it is just SEX!!! Call it as it is. Let’s not sugarcoat, decorate and garnish words.
Don’t get me wrong. I have been put in scenarios where, well let’s just say compromising situations but two cannot walk together unless they agree.
So yes I was told I was inexperienced and that’s why the supposed feelings between us ended. I’m I supposed to feel guilty because that happened? HELL to the NO. Ladies, if you feel that that isn’t it for you don’t do it. Don’t put yourself in such a scene and expect positive results. Leave. Period.
My question is, what happened to courtship, knowing someone before physical intimacy? Is that why ladies say men are dogs? No offence to the guys but y’all have to up your game.
I want to be courted, loved without conditions, listened to, cared for, opened the door for, kissed on the cheek-kind-of-thing.I mean there are ways one can do that without putting sex on the table. Can I get to know you first? Your likes, dislikes, what makes you tick?
I’m not looking for a one night stand, I want a forever kind of love. If you agree with me ladies can I get an AMEN?
In the future when I have kids and they ask me if I’d pick him (my husband or boyfriend) all over again I want to be able to look them in the eyes and tell them YES!! Becase I’d want them to get someone as loving and caring and understanding as their dad.
I bet it’s not so hard to you know go back to how things used to be. But if you aren’t game, pole sana. Let me just be.