Last weekend I happened to attend one of my family friend’s wedding. The invite read 11.00 am. I always love attending for three reasons, to witness the bride walk down the aisle, to taste the cake and yes, dance is a must!!! From my calculations of us being African-timers and the women must sing to welcome the bride, i knew the bride would definitely walk down the aisle at around 12 noon.
By 11.50 am i was seated in church, a good location to have a VIP view of the bridal party walking down without any obstruction whatsoever. I sat, waited, surfed, tweeted, networked with a few family members (the ones i knew), walked out, came in (more than 5 times). I started feeling tension from the groom’s side, murmurs, calls hear and there, some relatives who had traveled from far had started dozing off.
The bride finally arrived at 2.37 p.m.!!! That was exactly 2 hours 47 minutes from the appointed beginning time.
The women weren’t allowed to sing as they welcomed their bride to church. The bridal party was commanded by the pastor not to perform their dancing moves they had practiced; instead they were to march, literally down the aisle. The exchange of vows, exchange of rings, the pronouncement of marriage, and the sermon lasted for only 30 minutes ( not that am a fan of preaching on wedding day, actually, am totally against long sermons on wedding ceremony. From the preacher’s message, you could clearly notice that he had shortened his message.
At 3.10 p.m. we walked out of church headed straight for the reception. Lucky for us the reception was at the same venue. As we dined, we waited for another 2 hours for the bridal party to arrive from the photo session. By this time most of the guests had started leaving. At 5.00 p.m. they were back for cake cutting. This time round the M.C. wasn’t pleased. He limited all procedures of dances, speeches from Parents, elders, and important society members.
The wedding really wasn’t fun as it should be. The bride at an instance teared up when her favorite uncle’s speech was cut short. Most of the procedures were either rushed or shortened. It got me thinking, who was really to blame for this mess? Who really spoiled the fun?
For my friend, there excuse was that the car to pick the bride got lost in the estate trying to find the bride’s home.
Weddings are really meant to be fun, when everything is done at its right timing.
My two cents; if the car couldn’t get the location, there were family members at the homestead, couldn’t someone had taken a boda ride and direct the car to the homestead? Or if worse, couldn’t they have arranged an uber ride and take the bride to where the bridal car was?
The issue with us, we love to be stiff about procedures, even at the expense of others. The rhetorical bit is. It’s claimed the wedding day is always the bride’s day, all the man has to do is show up. Most instances and common cases, it’s usually the bride who gets late for her own day. The men rarely delay to get to church on time. Some call it cold feet, others come up with weird excuses.
I really felt for the couple, am sure the wedding they got isn’t they wedding they had expected. Everyone wants a wedding remembered because of dance, cake, beautiful gowns, and other fun emotional stuffs, not lateness or a summarized wedding. My plea to all future brides, grooms and those hoping for a wedding like me.
Please have someone to ensure smooth run of your weddings, it could be a wedding planner, a relative or a friend who isn’t in the bridal team to ensure the programme flows at set time. S/he should be wise and responsible enough to communicate easily with all service providers. S/he should be a quick thinker to manage emergencies and shortcomings of wedding day. Source the key services i.e. transport, catering, cake vendors, photography, sound and PA system from reliable companies or people.
Pray for your wedding, insist on good timing and be a good time keeper.
I look forward to attend more fun, adrenaline-crazed weddings. All the best to the newly weds.
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Have a fun day; Stay dry!!!